Divorce with kids - first blog post

I don't think I am the only one who has to deal with their former spouse. I have been divorced for three years and everyday I wake up and say "How did I marry that!" The only good thing is our four kids and that's it. I am sure we all deal with these everyday trials but I am to the point that I when I frustrate the situation it brings a smile.

I wanted to find a place to post these frustrating situations because they have now become funny and I want to share them. Let me first explain how I got here. Our marriage failed because we both gave up, we are both to blame. She ended up cheating on me but she was checked out before that, what is funny and what I have learned no matter how much you try to talk to them, I was better talking to the wall. What fueled the fire is when we separated after the original cheat, she met someone else, that isn't my problem it was when he would sleep over when my kids were with her. Let me make this clear, this person she met, she married 6 months after our divorce was final and they are still together, so all I asked was for her to upfront with me so we could co-parent. Even being joint custody it almost makes things more difficult but here is my biggest advice. It is the hardest part to do and honestly it takes a lot to do it. Once the divorce is in high gear, you need to try and take the emotional part out of it and look at as a business deal gone wrong. I was about 90% good with this but it was hard. Well more to come and thanks for stopping by and reading my blog.